Summer + Boundaries + Reflection
Summer is here, pools are open, the sun is shining and my garden is thriving. It feels as if we were just ushering in the new year, writing our visions and hoping for warmer temperatures. Then, just like that we are halfway through the year.
* Mindful Connection*
FYI this summer you can choose to resist the pressure to "do it all" or to fill every moment with activity. Instead, find a pace that feels right for you and create your own summer bucket list filled with peaceful, reflective, and joyful experiences. Here are some ideas to inspire you:
Experience child-like joy and play
Take a cooking class
Journal in nature
Let your feet touch the grass
Create a summer playlist
Grow an herb garden
Boundary Reminders:
Your boundaries are about YOU and YOUR behaviors
Asking someone to do something is a request, not a boundary!
Boundaries are not meant to control other people.
We do not get to control other people’s response to our boundaries.
You get your boundary, they get their feelings.
None of us like being told no, or not getting what we want - expect pushback.
Other people do not need to agree with your boundaries in order for YOU to enforce them.
Many of you are sharing your desires or rules, wanting agreement, and then saying “I’ve tried to set boundaries with them in the past and they didn’t listen”, “I have told them my boundaries before and they didn’t respect my boundaries”.
Here is an example of a boundary:
Rule: I do not want people to show up to my home unannounced.
Communication: Verbally share with family and friends my rule.
Other people’s behavior: Someone shows up unannounced “anyway.”
Boundary (MY behavior): I do not open the door.
Mid Year Reflection:
If I could have whatever I want, would I still want this?
I found this question on Instagram and it stopped me…I encourage you to ask yourself this question over and over. Pay attention to your answers, sit with them and then move accordingly.
